Expectations..

A Review of our Thinking.. 

 

As each year comes to an end we are often heard to say thank goodness as we say goodbye to a year that when it began started out with every expectation. Yet here we are again as we herald in another New Year as we wish and expect so much more from the year before.

 We make promises to ourselves that this year we will endeavour to  be healthier, as we start new fitness regimes, and as we say goodbye to our bad habits. Promises often we never keep up.   

We are all of us walking, searching to find ourselves and that which fulfills us. We constantly search outside of ourselves to bring us that feeling of happiness. Be it in our relationships, careers or through our possessions. We gather everything to us holding onto them, thinking all of these external things are what will bring us happiness.

So, we constantly strive, putting ourselves under pressure, working extra hours,seeking to gather yet more things we probably never really needed to fill up a yearning hole inside of us that cries out to feel complete.

I look around my own home at the ‘Things’ that I have gathered over the years, my glass paperweights from the countries I visited, my record collection, the books that I have read and re-read as I have searched the pages for wisdom to that which more of us are seeking which we call enlightenment.

Most times we are our own worst enemies, as our scattered thoughts distract us from finding our peaceful path we are all seeking whether we realise it or not.

We all too often look back and blame others for our failings, or we worry about our futures as our inner chatter is constantly pulling us down. Telling us we are not good enough, clever enough or we put things off saying when the children leave home, next year or when I retire..  We continually make excuses to ourselves as to why we do not keep those promises to ourselves.

I keep saying I am going to write a book.. Yet I make excuses to myself each year, putting it off.. I am no different from anyone else..

 Our Ego makes us defensive about our weakness’s often making us feel unworthy. We take on hurts and wounds as we take to heart other people’s opinions of us. We listen to gossip and then add our own two pennies worth to the mix..  

Our Inner Chatter often spills out in irritations as we then verbalise our dissatisfaction. Causing arguments and resentments as our pride is dented, so we bite back, lashing out with more words that wound.

We then carry guilt, holding it deep within, nurturing it as we feed that inner chatter with justification as to why we are right and others are wrong. It then festers deeper into resentment and anger bubbles turning inward into bitterness.  

We now not only hold onto our personal stuff, but as the world grows closer in its communication systems we get embroiled in politics and the weight then of the negative news that is being poured into our homes in hourly bulletins also weighs us further down..  
All of these emotions bite deep within us effective our energy body causing our dis-ease with self, allowing illnesses to manifest. Often our body kicks in as a last resort to stop us in our tracks. It’s trying to get our attention to alter our thinking and ways of being. So our body rebels with aches and pains.. As we push it too hard and we fail to nourish it and give it rest.. 

My own nervous breakdown and subsequent FMS years ago was my body’s wake up call.. Which was telling me to slow down and alter course.  All these emotions we carry weigh us down literally DE-Pressings us as our auras get blocked as the energy stops flowing.

One of the greatest lessons is learning to leave things behind as we walk our paths to finding ourselves. This is one of the best gifts we can give ourselves as we start afresh a new year is Letting Go! So we need to let go of our self expectations as well.. Stop forcing things into BEing and just allow things to BE.. Let go of guilt, regrets, anger and jealousies.As you develop patience with others and ourselves, you then begin to see how those you thought were  your enemies were in fact your greatest teachers as they helped strengthen you. 

 Learning that there really are no Cross-roads only those of our own making.. For we are stood in our own centre of our BEingness in our present Moment of Now..Making our own choices. 

Our roads are all leading us to one place. And that is to look inside of ourselves, as we alter our perspective and thinking.   Don’t let fear and anxiety take control of your thoughts… Allow yourself space to breathe. Take yourself out in Mother Nature allow her calm presence to guide you as you unscramble your thoughts.  

For by taking in the beauty of the moment, seeing how very blessed we are,  we then can stand within our own centre of happiness.. Its been right here inside of us all along.. Within our Hearts. But we got so busy with ‘Things’ We lost our Hearts connection. 

Our Futures are in our hands as we begin another year.. Let us keep those promises to ourselves.. As we open our hearts to ourselves, forgiving our faults and our failures, as we relearn how to love ourselves..

There is no greater power on this planet than Love.. Its what keeps us from Fear.. Don’t allow Fear to dominate yet another year of Expectations!..

Love and Blessings

~Sue~