Meaningful Monday’s~ Bullying~

When I  was in school  in the days before the internet, I knew what it was to be bullied at an All Girls School, by girls in the school. 

I was the child with a home-made gingham summer  school uniform that my mother had made. It had  an extra  deep, doubled rolled hem and a bought lace collar along with pres-studs down the front. With buttons sewn on top. At first I was so proud of my new dress, because it had a fancy collar made of lace, not plain like the others. And I proudly went off to my new School aged 11.My dress started out miles too big. But  each year as I grew the hem was let down, you could see the material hem marks of each layer…  And it was a good thing that it was in those later  years, the mini skirt was in fashion.

My winter skirt, was the same, and by the time I left school, aged Fifteen,  it was shiny black with the amounts of washing and ironing.. It was then passed down to my  middle sister  who also had to wear it. 

 That dress got me into so much trouble. The headmistress had me in her office often, as she would single me out of assembly, making me blush, and cry, as she stood me in front of the whole assembly, not once but often telling me that is not the correct uniform. She would single another pupil out who wore the correct uniform and continue her verbal lashings of the Do’s and Don’ts of what not to wear. 

I would go home with a letter from the headmistress and my mother would rip it up and say, we cannot afford new dresses, that is why my red and white checked gingham dress was home-made in the first place.  I became to feel ashamed of the dress,ashamed of my shape, and felt everyone was looking at me. I learnt too who were friends, and who were not, as my uniform was made fun of. 

Children can be so cruel, and we as adults should know better.. But we are talking in the days when corporal punishment was allowed  and it was normal to  have the chalk board rubber thrown at you if you were lacking paying attention!.  

That summer dress I kid you not lasted me the whole four years at secondary school, it  fit where it touched. My Shoes also lasted for three years, they were second-hand off a cousin to start with, and filled with cotton wool because they were too big, and when at last the sole got worn and had a hole in them, I though yipppeee!… Now I get a new pair,  But no, my Dad re-soled them..  And for many years, I always felt~ Unworthy.. For it seemed my middle sister and I had to make do, while my three other siblings  always seemed to have newer things. 

Words Wound, and scar, and leave those who are bullied feeling so hurt and alone.. imagine being in today’s climate on your phone or computer in your own safe environment and how that impacts upon a young child or teenager who is already feeling insecure ..

Where ever I go, what ever I do, I try to become aware of how my words may impact upon another, I am not always successful, I have my outbursts too..  But I try to leave Kindness, Upliftment, and Praise for others… If we all found just one small thing in which to compliment another human being, What a difference that could make to their feelings of worthiness. 

We are all responsible for our thoughts, words, deeds and actions..

Lets Make a Difference with the ones we use..  

 

 

This Post has been Scheduled and I will not be able to access replies until the weekend.  Many thanks in advance to all who take the time to leave me your welcome comments. 

Thank you.

See you Soon 

~Sue~

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  1. IreneDesign2011
    Nov 27, 2017 @ 08:12:03

    You are so right, we need to be aware of our acting etc. to other souls, Sue.
    Bullying have been going on for many years and by different reasons and to be hit by bullying have never been nice.
    Wish you a beautiful week ❤

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  2. Sue Vincent
    Nov 27, 2017 @ 08:35:03

    I recognise so much of this from my own schooldays, Sue, wearing cast-off or incorrect uniform… as if we, the children, had the choice, though it was us who were punished.Such things leave scars in confidence and many of the things we say in innocence or even as mistaken ‘jokes’ to a child can scar them for life. xx

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    • Sue Dreamwalker
      Dec 05, 2017 @ 13:23:49

      Hi Sue, first thank you for your comment, and your patience in my getting back to answer you.. So sorry you too were a victim of bullying. And yes we had no choice in what our parents could afford, but sadly we got into trouble, and were ridiculed.
      Many thanks for your contribution to the subject Sue..
      Hope you are having a good week. 🙂

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  3. derrickjknight
    Nov 27, 2017 @ 09:14:05

    Apart from the bullying, which seemed to start at the very top, I can identify with this. My mother made all our clothes, too. She even embroidered the motif on our school badges.

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    • Sue Dreamwalker
      Dec 05, 2017 @ 13:43:58

      Your Mother must have been an excellent seamstress Derrick. and wonderful too to embroider your badge too.. Many thanks for sharing my friend.. and apologies for the lateness of my replying. I am slowly working my way through comments.. 🙂 and catching up on my friends blogs.. Enjoy your Tuesday xx 🙂

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  4. David
    Nov 27, 2017 @ 09:17:39

    This brought back so many memories Sue. My Prep School uniform was black with a gold crest still bought from the parents’ jumble sale and still looking good, but the Grammar School uniform was brown, would you believe, and with subsequent cleaning faded badly so it was easy to tell which was new and which was second hand. Granny always provided my Vyella shirts with a tuck in the sleeve to be let down as I grew and she also bought my first suit in grey with short trousers. We were very grateful to Granny who helped out my single Mum in many ways and although we lived in 2 rooms in someone else’s house I considered myself lucky. I suffered bullying until one day I snapped and decided to defend my honour, got hauled up to the head for fighting and got 6 of the best adding injury to insult. Then in a history class while the teacher in his black gown was writing on the board the bully behind me kept poking me in the back with his ruler until I could stand it no longer and thanks to my long arms and without looking took a swing at him which hit him in the side of the head that literally brought tears to his eyes. There was no more bullying from anyone after that! The teacher turned at the sound of the THWACK! But we both had our heads down and it all went by in secret except to the rest of the class. News travels fast especially in closed communities like a boys only school … thankfully! Love, David

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    • Sue Dreamwalker
      Dec 05, 2017 @ 13:50:47

      Thank you David for sharing that. Seems many who have left comments here, have had home made clothes etc and got bullied accordingly.
      It is surprising how many who bully, once they are given some of their own medicine, can soon back down.
      And yes, my hubby remembers getting 6 of the best too.. I got the chalk rubber thrown at me, as I was looking out of a window day dreaming.. Luckily it missed my head, ( they were heavy things ) and bounce off my desk.. leaving a shower of chalk dusk, I still remember like a cloud in the air as the sunlight hit it.. 🙂 Funny what you remember..
      And apologies for only just getting caught up with so many comments on this post. Scotland was as beautiful as ever.. 🙂
      Many thanks Love and Hugs
      Sue 🙂

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  5. Visionkeeper
    Nov 27, 2017 @ 11:04:34

    The world has turned into a bully both young and old and we expect our children to grow up properly? Insane thinking! The world suffers greatly from bullying on so many levels. If we are to save ourselves and create peace we better begin first with stopping our judgments of others. It is one of our biggest failures and needs to be corrected NOW! It is impossible to love and judge at the same time and the world we are experiencing without love is a dismal place to be and our children are slipping further and further away.Time to face the music and get on the right train tracks before we crash….Bullying and judgment are evil and need to be eliminated! Hugs to you DW…Have a wonderful week ahead….Much love….VK ❤

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    • Sue Dreamwalker
      Dec 05, 2017 @ 14:18:20

      Yes, we reap what is being sown unfortunately VK. and like you say, it gets no better. Too many quick to judge and so many young children being bullied..
      Thank you VK, for your wonderful reply.. Just getting back to my comments again today.. So thank you for your patience my friend..
      Love and Hugs Sue xxx ❤

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  6. InfiniteZip
    Nov 27, 2017 @ 11:19:20

    I loved your story and I too grew up with home made clothes and hand me downs. Bullies can be hurtful and it can take years to believe in yourself and finally feel worthy. I’m glad I feel good now and can look back and see what I wish I hadn’t hung on to for all of those years. Time wasted feeling inferior when I could have been flitting about like the amazing fairy princess I am 🙂 peace and love and another amazing post Sue. Blessings and peace ❤

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    • Sue Dreamwalker
      Dec 05, 2017 @ 14:56:12

      Hi Kim, thank you my friend, Yes bullying is not nice, but we who have woken up to ourselves, understand that no good comes of the woe is me syndrome. lol.. I so agree..
      Many thanks dear friend.. I had a wonderful time in Scotland.. And thank you for your patience in my responding.. xxx ❤

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  7. Miriam
    Nov 27, 2017 @ 11:37:37

    Bullying is such a serious issue that’s been around for years. My beautiful mum made many of my clothes too. I endured bullying, though my parents were unaware and then my on also endured it in Year 7, though fortunately he told me about it. Yes, our words and those of others have such an impact. And yes, we can always choose kindness and compassion to counteract the cruelty. Thanks for sharing your story Sue. xo ❤️

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    • Sue Dreamwalker
      Dec 05, 2017 @ 14:59:54

      So many of our Mothers made us our clothes, and sorry you and your Son were subject to bullying too Miriam, My own Son too, due to his ginger hair colour also got bullied, though he never told me until he left school..
      I wonder if I could have stopped any of it, had I known, But he told me in his adult years saying there was no point in telling me. As it was he who had to deal with it..

      Many thanks for your kind patience in me replying to you Miriam. At last I am about caught up with all comments since returning to WP from my hols.. 🙂 xxx

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  8. Mark Lanesbury
    Nov 27, 2017 @ 11:53:35

    And slowly the rose will blossom where before was just a thorn…understanding, where before was confusion…and love, where before was doubt.
    Your journey has created something very beautiful Sue…but first the foundations of life, until towards the end that understanding as it all comes together.
    Just like the rose. But first the thorns ❤
    A very difficult and heartfelt journey dear lady, filled with many of those thorns. But I 'see' the beauty of the rose you have created from those paths, I only have to read your many posts to 'see' the transformation it has brought. Each step closer to that unconditional we all seek. And you do make a difference, and will be a light to those who follow ❤

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    • Sue Dreamwalker
      Dec 05, 2017 @ 14:44:12

      Many thanks dear Mark, for those most complimentary words.. I am fortunate in turning those thorns into roses.. And learning from their sharp scratches.Learning to go within, as we both have done and dig out those deep wounds, have not always been easy.. And I am grateful we have come to bloom from our experiences..
      While many still suffer, and hold onto the feelings often inflicted in early childhood.
      And so feel for those who are going through such bullying.
      Thank you again dear Mark.. I am positively glowing.. by your kind comment my friend..
      Wishing you a perfect week..
      Hugs Sue ❤

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  9. kowkla123
    Nov 27, 2017 @ 12:19:48

    wenn es Mobbing wird, ist es ganz schlimm, komme gut durch die Woche; Klaus

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  10. House of Heart
    Nov 27, 2017 @ 12:34:07

    Bullying should be at the top of our priorities to do something about Its even tougher now with cyber bullyimg. So many kids are suffering even to the point of taking their own life. We must stop this. Children are latch key kids now with parents not parenting. Our First Lady says her cause is to take on bullyimg. Her own husband is setting a new bar for it and for violence. I can sympathize Sue, I was the little red haired freckle face with glasses. Words hurt, and now threats of physical violence are being endured by our precious children. We must stop this somehow .

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    • Sue Dreamwalker
      Dec 05, 2017 @ 13:38:45

      Thank you Holly, and yes cyber bullying is something now so many children and teens suffer from, and there are far too many suicides from bullying.. I did not know that about your first Lady.. So well done on her..
      My son has red hair too Holly and he too was bullied at school, though he kept it from me.. And it wasn’t until his adult years he revealed to me how it had impacted. Yet he kept quiet about it..
      I wish he had spoken up, for then maybe I could have gone to school and spoken to teachers etc..
      So many children suffer in silence, and it builds up within their minds which leads to their deep depression.. Being depressed as a teen, was something I suffered from. And its horrid to feel no one understands you..
      So I sympathise with your own young self Holly.
      Apologies for only just getting to your comment, I have been working my way down my list the last couple days.. 🙂
      Hope alls well with you..
      Hugs and much Love xxx Sue xx ❤

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      • House of Heart
        Dec 05, 2017 @ 14:18:05

        I know it’s such a busy time Sue, don’t worry about anything! Just be safe and enjoy the holidays. Yes, I was “made fun of ” as a redhead with freckles and so many kids are picked on for physical or emotional reasons. I never told anyone, somehow it seemed shameful. I can only imagine how devastated these young children are that take their lives. We need to do something, something really harsh against cyber bullying and in the classrooms to stop this. Depression effects a lot of kids and no one is really aware of it, thinking it is a phase etc. Have a great day dear lady. Many hugs to you and much love xxxx Holly ❤

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        • Sue Dreamwalker
          Dec 05, 2017 @ 14:24:16

          Thank you Holly.. I don’t think my feet have touched the ground properly since my short break away.. But taking WP in small chunks, while I get other things done..
          And yes my Son said exactly the same.. as to why he didn’t tell me. He said he didn’t want to worry me.. And I could do nothing about it anyway.. He was a quiet lad back then, so he must have suffered in silence.
          I think cyber bullying is very hurtful.. As I have been subjected to that previously with comments I deleted from strangers. Sad world…
          You too Holly, I am hoping to catch up with a few of your posts in a little while..
          Take care too dear friend.. ❤ xx

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  11. New Bloggy Cat
    Nov 27, 2017 @ 13:25:50

    It’s so true, Sue! Words can make or break a person. I too had a fair dose of negative remarks when I was young. May we be mindful of our words, thoughts and actions. *( ॢᵕ꒶̮ᵕ)ॢ*♡

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  12. laurabruno
    Nov 27, 2017 @ 14:20:13

    So sorry you went through this, beautiful Sue! Love and continued healing to you … thank you for speaking out about this.

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  13. Jennie
    Nov 27, 2017 @ 14:24:09

    This is heartfelt and important, Sue. Thank you!

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  14. Ben Naga
    Nov 27, 2017 @ 14:59:13

    NOT-SO-SMART MOUTH

    Using wit
    With intent to hurt
    A sour note
    Spoils the chord
    You play and to be honest
    You test my patience

    https://bennaga.wordpress.com/2017/11/25/not-so-smart-mouth-25b/

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  15. Sageleaf
    Nov 27, 2017 @ 16:12:03

    Sweet Sue! I finally made it over on a day you actually posted! Hehe.
    I had so many thoughts as I read through this. In middle school, I was horribly bullied – I’d find spitwads in my hair, nasty notes my classmates left, and no allies in a class of 24 students. I turned “holy” at that time to both keep myself out of trouble, but also to have a place of refuge. It seemed that I had no enemies in the Catholic church. It wasn’t until I got older and started to question the patriarchy, question the validity of their “laws” that I was not looked upon kindly, but that’s a whole other thing.
    Those scars from middle school and high school have stayed with me. While kids are just small versions of people, and people are people, I found it in my heart to forgive them a long time ago. I hold no anger towards them. However, I won’t participate in reunions or get-togethers they often want to have. I’ll hear about these things through Facebook…
    And while I’ve done my best to put the bullying behind me, and try to remember the amazing teachers I had, and be grateful that my parents were able to send me to a private school, I think about young kids today who are supposed to be in a safe place at home and then have to deal with cyber-bullying. And people, in the anonymity of the internet – can be much more cruel with their words.
    Like any human being, I sometimes overstep my bounds with words. Sigh. Just last night, I was calling representatives and senators and outraged about this “net neutrality” stuff they’re proposing. I got off the phone with one of them and wondered if I’d gone too far….
    But in the past few years especially, I have been very careful to hold my tongue. Part of that is my personality type: I’m not prone to speaking my mind. I’ll usually hold it in for the “good of the many.” But I also realize the gravity of my words and try, in the spirit of Don Miguel Ruiz to “be impeccable with my word.”
    I acknowledge my shortcomings. I suppose it’ll take a lifetime of practice but I resolve to try. 🙂
    Thank you for having the courage to relate your story here, too. I can imagine the grief and embarrassment of being singled out like that. Even as an adult it’s difficult. I was working at a doctor’s office for awhile when I was in college. A misinterpretation of my intentions on a customer’s part led to a complaint and then a staff meeting in which I was singled out for what I’d said. They made an example of me. After doing some investigating, my words had been taken out of context and my boss understood what had happened, but not until after that meeting. But the damage was done: I immediately began to look for another job. Alas, I had the freedom to do that. Students in school often cannot just change schools because of a bad experience. And my heart goes out to them, and to you.
    Those experiences have a role in shaping who we are. Those tough times can often teach us the most brilliant lessons – even though they are so painful. In that light, the pressure of all your life experiences shaped you into a diamond and I’m grateful for you. 🙂

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    • Sue Dreamwalker
      Dec 03, 2017 @ 18:14:46

      Dear Cynthia, how horrible for you to endure that in your childhood.. Thankfully my own was mild in comparison. Children can be very cruel, but teachers should know better.. Thankfully I was taken under one teachers wing, I am sure she felt sorry for me.. She was my brilliant English teacher.. She saw something in me. and saw how I would sit alone.. She lent me books that others were not privy too and coached me in my reading skills, which when I arrived aged 11 I am sure I was behind many others.. My spelling too suffered.. So with my reading my spelling became better.. I still rely often of spell check though haha.. But she helped me grow in confidence, and I no longer was bottom of the class.. In fact I came top in History exam once and second in Science.. I felt ten foot tall.
      Thank you for sharing your story about your words being taken out of context.. That must have been awful.
      But you are right, it is through these experiences that we grow and its what makes us who we are today..
      Sending LOVE and Hugs my friend.. And thank you So so much for sharing your experiences…
      Love Sue xx ❤

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  16. Renee Espriu
    Nov 27, 2017 @ 16:29:09

    I do understand about the things you are talking about. I did not wear a uniform but had my clothes sewn by mom and when I was old enough I learned to sew my own so continued through school wearing clothes hand made. Most other girls to my knowledge wore clothes bought in a store. Also, mom would buy my shoes bigger and stuff bathroom tissue inside in the end so I could grow into them. When I was the only girl at age 10 to wear glasses lots of kids joined in taunting me. I was different for sure which included being ethnically diverse. I never complained at home as I knew the answer I would receive…much like yourself. Good write my friend and although there was punishment in store for some children, it seemed what I went through was never addressed. It simply seemed to be the way things were and now my grandchildren are in school, for some of them things remain the same. Hope you are well.

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    • Sue Dreamwalker
      Dec 03, 2017 @ 18:06:15

      Dear Renee, thank you for sharing that my friend.. Sewing then was what our parents did.. And I smile at the bathroom tissue. back then ours was that shiny bathroom tissue called IZAL .. lol, So I had cotton wool in my toe ends.. 🙂 ❤ xxx Much love and thank you so much for reading xx 🙂

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  17. Writing to Freedom
    Nov 27, 2017 @ 16:35:15

    Thanks for being vulnerable and sharing your story of bullying Sue. Yes, kids and people can be harsh. I’m glad you’ve allowed yourself to soften, growing wiser and more compassionate so that you can plant seeds of love with your words and actions. Thank you for caring and modeling a better way. Hugs!

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  18. mihrank
    Nov 27, 2017 @ 19:33:08

    Sue – this is so important, sensitive story. I am touched by the means of your story. This is such difficult,complicated matter, hope we can all come together for a solution with respect and safety.

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  19. nhpureandsimple
    Nov 27, 2017 @ 20:02:40

    You are very kind.
    Thanks for sharing
    Wishing you all the best

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  20. Erika Kind
    Nov 27, 2017 @ 20:05:38

    Reading this reminded me of a former classmate. Her parents were poor too and she wore more than old-fashioned clothes. She was bullied too but no one really understood what they did to them. She had scratches on her wrists. But she made it! I cannot believe that your director was so thoughtless and humiliate a child in front of the class only because your parents couldn’t afford a uniform. This shocked me even more. Instead, she should have supported and helped you. That’s terrible! Those years must have been the bare horror for you… day by day!

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    • Sue Dreamwalker
      Dec 03, 2017 @ 16:29:59

      I agree with you on this Erika about the Headmistress.. I think maybe her own life had been fraught in someway to make her as she was.. She was in her late 50’s I would think, very petite, and was a spinster, I feel her bitterness of life over-spilt in her authority over others.. She vented anger often, and I was not the only poor child in school picked on by her.. Yes you are right she should have known better.. But in those days I think they pleased themselves, and corporal punishment of the ruler on girls hands was common.. I never got the ruler.. but I did get the chalk rubber thrown at me, when I was day dreaming.. :-D..
      I look back now and know in a way all of those experiences helped shape me to who I am today.. So I thank her and others really.. for they taught me a lot ..
      Many thanks Erika.. Love and Hugs my friend xx x

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  21. Sophia's Children
    Nov 27, 2017 @ 21:40:11

    Beautiful, Sue, that you’ve woven remedy from the poison (as the Chirotic Questers would say) … made compassionate medicine out of those painful experience. Your story is so powerful in revealing the cruelty of those punitive, bullying ways of shaming and humiliation (I have my own such stories, and I’m sure more than a few of your readers have theirs, too); as well as the power of kindness, compassion, and mindfulness of how we treat others. Many thanks for all that you share. Blessings and love, Jamie

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    • Sue Dreamwalker
      Dec 03, 2017 @ 16:10:34

      Thank you Jamie.. I think we grow from such experiences, I know of many here on WP who like you have had similar experiences.. We choose not to follow the herd mentality, but choose a different road of love, caring and compassion.. Being mindful of how we treat and respect others, comes from knowing the cruelty of words that wound..
      Many thanks Jamie for your lovely feedback to my post.. Wishing you a Blessed Sunday..
      Sue xxx ❤

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  22. Christy B
    Nov 27, 2017 @ 22:52:05

    Reblogged this on When Women Inspire and commented:
    “Words wound and scar,” as Sue Dreamwalker says in this post. Please head over to her insightful post on bullying to read more. ♥

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  23. europasicewolf
    Nov 27, 2017 @ 23:47:33

    You’re absolutely right Sue, and I must say I do relate to your school uniform problem! It actually made me smile a little, which is a good thing today, but when my sister and myself were growing up there wasn’t a lot of cash around, and school uniform was 2nd hand. Like you, I was very proud of my new uniform…..until the comments began….however I decided they were spoiled little rich brats strutting around in their brand new uniforms and decided not to care! Well…tried! It’s bad news for kids in that position, especially today when they’re so conscious of fashion, even more so than we ever were. Icewolfie hugs xx

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    • Sue Dreamwalker
      Dec 03, 2017 @ 16:01:59

      Yes I agree about fashion being more important than when I was growing up.. Today it is all about Image and labels.. Sorry you had to go through that too.. Its all about how we alter our perspectives into coping.. For a long while I withdrew into a shell, and would just sit and read and play time and not join in.. But it helped make me who I am today, so I am grateful for the experiences.. xxx ❤

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  24. The Coastal Crone
    Nov 28, 2017 @ 01:47:11

    Adults making children feel badly is even worse than children bullying! I cannot imagine your feelings as your mother did the best she could. And education was more important than what you wore. I remember my mother sewing an another tier on the bottom of my Halloween costume when I grew so I can sort of relate. And shoes lasted and were resoled and repaired.

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    • Sue Dreamwalker
      Dec 03, 2017 @ 15:54:44

      Yes shoe repair was a common thing, I guess I so disliked those shoes, I was gutted when Dad resoled them.. I agree education is more important..
      On a more modern note.. A School here in the Summer would not let their boys wear short school trousers..because they were not school uniform.. So a group of them decided they would wear the school kilt skirt instead. The Link to the Boys School Photo in skirts is here
      It will make you smile.. They got the school I think to agree in the end.. 🙂

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  25. robbiesinspiration
    Nov 28, 2017 @ 04:39:07

    How awful for you, Sue. My parents didn’t have much money at all but they always tried to give us girls new uniforms and the correct stationary so that we didn’t stand out as the poor kids. I am grateful for that and many other amazing things my parents did for us. Hugs to you.

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    • Sue Dreamwalker
      Dec 03, 2017 @ 15:42:39

      It was something as a child you learnt to accept.. And I am so pleased you had wonderful parents. Looking back upon that little girl, she gained a lot of strength from her childhood experiences, which stood her in good stead for her future.. So I give thanks often, for It made me who I am today.. 🙂 ❤

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  26. smilecalm
    Nov 28, 2017 @ 08:45:12

    i’m saddened by the traumatization of young, precious Sue!
    may she continue healing & finding safety
    & refuge in love;
    helping others do so, also
    along the path 🙂

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    • Sue Dreamwalker
      Dec 03, 2017 @ 15:31:33

      The Young one grew from her experiences David, and she blossomed because of them.. Her journey is all about discovering who she was, and what made her to what she now is.. So I am thankful for that little girl who stood and cried.. She has come a long way.. 🙂 and has learnt such a lot along her journey.. Many thanks my friend 🙂

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  27. Smorgasbord - Variety is the Spice of Life.
    Nov 28, 2017 @ 09:20:34

    Reblogged this on Smorgasbord – Variety is the spice of life and commented:
    Sue Dreamwalker with her own story of being bullied at school. a reminder of how hurtful words can be..not just from our peers at that age but by unthinking adults too. That means us….

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  28. jenanita01
    Nov 28, 2017 @ 09:27:47

    Reblogged this on anita dawes and jaye marie.

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  29. jenanita01
    Nov 28, 2017 @ 09:31:35

    You describe my own childhood perfectly, and the mortification and shame of it has left its mark. We end up who we are, because of times like these, don’t we?

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    • Sue Dreamwalker
      Dec 03, 2017 @ 15:21:08

      I think many adults can relate to this, But as you so rightly observe.. It is by going through such experiences, we are who we are today.. Our Past is what makes us in our Present.
      Many thanks for your reblog and your lovely comment.. 🙂

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  30. Teagan R. Geneviene
    Nov 28, 2017 @ 10:50:46

    Sigh… I feel you Sue. And it never really goes away.
    I was bullied throughout school… and then went home to my mother’s bizarre abuse. Sometimes I’m ashamed now, that it still hurts when I’m an old lady. But that’s part of it. Beat your drum, my friend. Keep the beat. We’re all here drumming with you. Hugs.

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    • Sue Dreamwalker
      Dec 03, 2017 @ 15:15:17

      So many of us suffered similar situations Teagan including the Mother scenarios, Yet my Mother had very loving parents, so have never been able to fathom her resentment.. My Grandparents, I spend many a happy school holiday with, as they lived a good distance away, and I would feel happier there than at home.. And my drum is always beating along with many other kind hearts, Thank you dear Teagan.. xxx

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  31. OIKOS™-Redaktion
    Nov 28, 2017 @ 11:23:11

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  32. freiedenkerin
    Nov 28, 2017 @ 15:26:15

    I know exactly how yo felt… I had only a few friends in my childhood, because I have been a teacher’s daughter, and nearly every classmate has been afraid that I would tell my father what they have done and said… My mother used to bully me by very often telling me that I had a enormous large butt – what hasn’t been the truth, because as a child until to my mid Forties I have been as slim as a straw… I’m over Sixtie now, and the bullying of my youth and childhood days sometimes still hurts…

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    • Sue Dreamwalker
      Dec 03, 2017 @ 14:58:13

      I sympathise with you, that must have been difficult. And I also understand how you felt about your Mother bullying you.. For me it was not so much the bullying as being made to feel left out, I was just expected to look after my siblings and had to learn how to grow up fast.. So I can relate to your feelings.. Many thanks for taking the time to respond and leave me your comment.. I very much appreciate your kindness.. 🙂

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  33. -Eugenia
    Nov 28, 2017 @ 15:43:39

    I can relate, Sue. I was bullied because of my red hair and my name, Frances. Later on, red hair was a color many wanted to have. I changed the Frances to Franci and to this day, I will not answer to Frances. (The Francis the Talking Mule movie brought on the bullying about my name). I got through it though and I give credit to my mom because she was very supportive of me during those years. IMO, bullying has gotten worse, especially now that we have the virtual world where the bullies can hide behind their PC. Sending hugs.

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    • Sue Dreamwalker
      Dec 03, 2017 @ 14:52:27

      I can relate to the red hair, as my Son has red hair and was bullied at school through it too.. I am happy to hear your Mom was supportive.. That is always a bonus.. I agree about cyber bullies.. And people have become easy targets for this type of bullying..
      Many thanks for your lovely comment Eugenia.. and I can understand your association with your name calling.. People would call me Twiggy in my early teens because I was a bean pole.. But Twiggy was then the current fashion model, so even though I knew they called me to slight me.. I turned it around in my head, and thanked them out loud for their compliments.. It took some of them aback as they had meant it as insult. Yet I took it as a compliment.. 🙂 foiling their pleasure 🙂 .. 🙂

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  34. Infinite Living
    Nov 28, 2017 @ 18:34:03

    This is a very touching post. I can relate to it partly in some ways. I believe that it is a gift to me that a huge part of me is not conditioned to judge people on their appearance or belongings as I got to experience life without a lot. Words do create wounds that take forever to heal and words themselves can become magical healers when used right.

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  35. Bela Johnson
    Nov 28, 2017 @ 20:02:25

    Such a tender write, Sue. And it is familiar to me as well, though I did get new shoes every year. And I actually looked forward to my elder sister’s hand-me-downs, as she was far more stylish than I. I remember one particular dress of hers I pined for, it seemed. My mother made most of my dresses, and she did let me pick patterns and fabric, so no gingham for me, and I can only imagine how distressing it would have been to be bullied as a result. And by a headmaster, as well! Gosh, so sorry. What a world! ❤

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    • Sue Dreamwalker
      Dec 03, 2017 @ 14:28:19

      Yes I think that was the most humiliating thing, which stuck with me.. The headmistress singling me out.. And yes, what a world.. I wonder do we ever learn and grow?.. And happy to learn you got to choose fabric.. 🙂 and you had new shoes .. 🙂 Being the eldest I got many of my clothes from a distant cousin, whose size was not my fit.. 🙂 And who had often worn them till they were already looking faded and jaded.. I do however remember one poker-dot dress I did enjoy wearing.. it was navy and white spots.. And I think I wore it to death at weekends.. 🙂 ❤

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      • Bela Johnson
        Dec 04, 2017 @ 00:00:55

        I guess with perspective, we ‘should’ have been grateful to have clothes and food at all. Many do not, to this day, in various parts of the world. Yet suffering is suffering and there is no denying it. We must have compassion for the little children we were and how tender our hearts were to the slights and the sniggers. Horrible.

        I was talking with a young friend the other day who wanted a baby so badly. She was 40, and got pregnant – lost the child (and the father took off anyhow), then delivered a little boy with another dad who – even if he’s not her ideal – at least supports his kids. (Talk about ‘what a world!’). Her son will be two in April and is so very privileged to live ON the beach in Hawaii, to be that wanted and loved and cherished – to have a wealthy and generous auntie as his sole caregiver when mom has to work and his dad lives close by. All are in his life, all shower him with love. The other day as she was leaving him on the beach to enjoy the day in the ocean with his auntie while she went to work, he started throwing a fit – didn’t want to float on the belly board and so on. And my friend was seeing the Mother of the Cosmos as an orbit and herself as part of the archetypal Mother, a smaller circle within that larger orbit. And how all flows and is One and how all knowledge is always available, how we are all connected, etc – and thinking now why can’t he just accept that grand energy of Mother as knowing what is best for him; why must he struggle against it? And I said OH. Well. Yes, that is parenting(!! hahaha). That is the agreement when we come into the flesh – TO struggle ‘against!’ And in the end, to release the struggle, once again – if not before. And we both just laughed at the apparent futility of it all. What on earth … why do we do this? Why is there pain and suffering? Because we struggle against the Flow. Why don’t we simply accept it? And of course you and I could go on and on about how your story and hers and mine and so on are all different versions on similar themes.

        And so I’m sending you love on this sunny Hawaiian day with gentle breezes blowing just like Paradise after weeks of drenching tropical rain. Hope this finds you warm and well, Sue. ❤ ❤ ❤

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        • Sue Dreamwalker
          Dec 04, 2017 @ 12:50:32

          Yes, I am so on your page with this Bela, the problem being we come back in forgetfulness, and do not remember our greatness, or the power we hold internally. So we struggle from our first breath, battling to once again feel our importance.

          Our Ego while useful in many ways to nudge us to succeed, hampers us, for when we compete, ‘We’ don’t then like competition, so jealousies arise,. I see that in small children often. As they are reluctant to share their toys.. And throw a tantrum. Even before they know what they are doing instinct seems to kick in. As the ‘Fear’ of losing out and having things taken away comes into play.

          Acceptance is something we have had to relearn, over our years of standing back, looking in, and observing others. Looking at life from a different perspective.
          Our Spiritual backgrounds have given us wisdom, where perhaps others lack that inner knowing. But then sometimes our Inner Knowing can also be a burden too,
          So we keep on keeping on, Knowing the flow will take us where we are meant to be.
          Trusting in the Process.
          We have a long way yet to travel I feel, we are works in progress, learning and growing, and all our childhood lessons were the first stages of that journey.. Seeing how now we have to strip back those layers, and see them for what they made us, rather than how they wounded us..
          Only recently in the last six months, can I honestly say, I have looked back at past events to see them in a new light. And give thanks to them.

          Enjoy your wonderful warm day Bela, the sun is shining here also today.. Though you can see my breath when I go outside Lol..
          Love and Blessings my friend.. xxx ❤ ❤ ❤

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  36. Walking My Path: Mindful Wanderings in Nature
    Nov 28, 2017 @ 23:42:26

    I kind of wanted to cry a little bit thinking of such a sweet little Sue being made fun of. That must have been so hurtful. So many bullies around everywhere. We are responsible for the energy we put out there, and to step in to help when we can. The behavior of your headmistress was deplorable, and she taught young people how to be that way too. Grrrrrrrrr.
    Thanks for sharing, Sue. ❤

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    • Sue Dreamwalker
      Dec 03, 2017 @ 14:14:35

      Yes I agree about the headmistress and have left little insights as to how she was in other comment replies as I go along.. But in hindsight, the road I travelled must have been meant to be.. And I came through it OK in the end.. The headmistress, a spinster, I feel had little love in her life…

      But on a brighter note, I had a wonderful English teacher in total contrast to my headmistress, who took me under her wing.. Seeing I think how introvert I was, as I sunk into myself in those days.. She encouraged my reading skills, I was not the brightest spark.. My spelling and reading in school were well behind others.. So she gave me books from her own special library, and I got hooked into reading.. And my spelling and reading improved, so my other lessons also improved too.. I have a lot to thank my old English Teacher for.. And fondly think of her. She was due to retire the year after I left school.. But a few months before her retirement, she passed away in her sleep.. I know many of us were saddened by her passing..
      Thank you Mary, Loved having your comment.. ❤ xxx

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  37. Redneck_Goth
    Nov 29, 2017 @ 00:10:21

    Reblogged this on Crazy Little Redneck Goth.

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  38. dgkaye
    Nov 29, 2017 @ 01:55:19

    Oh Sue, my heart ached for that little girl, you. I used to and still do feel such empathy for those poor kids who were teased. Of course, I know it well myself, but for some magical reason, I managed to dodge it at school because I had a gift of making others laugh so I wouldn’t be laughed at. But my family took care of the teasing at home. Words do hurt, much of what I talk about in all my books. No surprise we’re kindred spirits. ❤ xxx Hugs my friend. 🙂

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  39. Annika Perry
    Nov 29, 2017 @ 09:04:00

    Sue, my heart goes out to you and the girl at school with the ‘wrong’ dress. It is so hard when all you want to do is fit in. Two things struck me particularly… the children I am afraid seemed to be par for the course, however The headmistress’s actions are reprehensible – what was she thinking! She must have known why you didn’t wear another dress and seems she only wanted to drive in the humiliation even further. It was also saddened by the unbalance Within the family and that three of your other siblings did have newer things more often -that must have been so hard to bear. Yes, may we all use our words with care, consider their effect and find the time to spread a little happiness with a gentle conversation. Hugs xx

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    • Sue Dreamwalker
      Dec 03, 2017 @ 13:30:17

      I think Annika, when the other children came along I got sort of left out and I then became the ‘Little Mother’ so to speak.. it always seemed that way to me as the child looking back..I have come over the years to learn to forgive many things. The next sibling to me was a boy, So he always got new.. My next sibling was a girl and she got new.. my middle sibling next to her got her hand me downs, as well as my hand me downs, while the baby of the family another girl got new too she always seemed to be favourite. .. . So me and my middle sister never did seem to fit the mould. And that would last through out our lives with our Mother..

      The headmistress, was a spinster, a stroppy little woman, who ruled the roost.. and sadly she picked on many of those who did not seem to come up to scratch.. I remember one farmers family of one girl there coming to confront her.. It was talk of our school.. She did calm down a bit after that for a while.. And yes, she did know we couldn’t afford a new uniform.. My mother sent her letters back.. which only got me into more hot water.. As my mother would verbalise her reasons in a straight manner right back. So I think there was more resentment that built up with the headmistress, as she could not get my family to conform to the school uniform rules.. 🙂 So I bore the brunt..
      But all no doubt was for a reason, as I didn’t turn out half bad.. 🙂 lol ❤ Hugs Annika,, and thank you for caring. ❤

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  40. prenin
    Nov 29, 2017 @ 09:59:48

    I was beaten at school and battered at home, growing up to become an abused adult who was repeatedly victimised by scum like Bob Cockin who is a life-long bully.

    Today I am being victimised by the investigative journalists who paid Cockin for his services, an assault that has gone on for over 28 years as they try to fool me into saying something they can sell using so-called friends.

    Today I am pretty much isolated and afraid to go to church in case they set me up for the third time using friends in church.

    Currently they are obsessed with my sexual preferences, trying to determine if I am gay or bisexual because I wouldn’t use the services of a prostitute I have known since she was 7 yo. and who I look on as my daughter.

    When she found out she was supposed to seduce me to prove my masculinity she blew her top!!!

    One genuine friend who I have helped several times over her difficult life.

    Sometimes good deeds come back to you! 🙂

    Unable to fool me into doing or saying something to betray my sexuality, they sent Andrew Renfrew to my home to ask me if I masturbate because they have run out of things to accuse me of.

    Andrew is no longer welcome in my home and now I’m pretty much isolated, but Emily told me I was only accused because I wear glasses and a ponytail and she gave me strict instructions that if I need anything I am to call her mum Pat, or my God daughter Becky and they’ll look after me.

    28 years of persecution because somebody didn’t like my hairstyle.

    Wonderful…

    Love and hugs!

    Prenin.

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    • Sue Dreamwalker
      Dec 03, 2017 @ 13:00:04

      I thank you Prenin for sharing your story here.. I know you have had much to contend with over the years I have known you.. I am happy though you have sorted out your friends from your foe and are on the road now to healing much of your past.. And now have your church friends to surround you, whom you trust.. Your health is much improved,and you are in a brighter place now mentally than before, so I am really pleased the progress you have made..

      Sending continued hugs your way Prenin… You have come such a long way from those earlier years.. And have grown into such a caring soul.
      Take care.. and many thanks again for sharing your experiences ..

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  41. insearchofitall
    Nov 29, 2017 @ 13:02:10

    I don’t think you will ever get caught up on the comments this post brought. A very tender subject indeed and no one was immune. Meanness came and still comes from every corner and it never seems to go away. Adults and children alike have victimized others with blatant disregard. I dressed my children as nicely as I could and they were teased for that as well. Nothing fancy, just clean and crisp. I understood the feeling of being targeted by others on two continents. We are not comfortable with anything that is different . We have already come through 3 generations and it is still a major issue. We don’t seem to be growing enough. Thank you for sharing a little bit of what made you such a kind and caring human. Know you are loved by all of us.

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    • Sue Dreamwalker
      Dec 03, 2017 @ 12:53:15

      Thank you Marlene, I have been on my blog all morning and only just a quarter of the way through my comments, lol as I visit each blog in turn to catch up .. That is the problem of being away, I nearly closed the comments on this one, but thought people may have similar experiences to share.. SO I am pleased I left it open while I was away..
      I know what you mean, as there are those who are so jealous of those who try to be neat and tidy.. There is often no rhyme or reason for the behaviours of children or adults, except to say they have not learnt how to respect. It never stops and continues in the work place ..
      I agree with you, we are not growing enough.. We have for the most part been taught about the material, and judge accordingly. We are not growing spiritually at all.. Well, not that it is visible.. Though I know many are growing.. We who suffered such bullying, I think have grown from our experiences.. And as a result our hearts have expanded in compassion and caring for how others feel..

      Many thanks Marlene for sharing that about your own experiences.. I value your comments.. Wishing you a beautiful Day.. xxx
      Love Sue xx ❤

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  42. Baydreamer
    Nov 29, 2017 @ 16:47:22

    Your story reminded me of a dress I made in home economics that I absolutely hated, but we had to wear. I had a few moments of bullying, and I appreciate you sharing your memories, Sue, because they’re difficult ones to relive, I’m sure. Bullying is horrible to begin with, but honestly, I can’t imagine being a youth in this day and age where everything is instant on social media. It’s scary and sad, and yes, children of all ages can be so cruel. Words alone can have a great impact, good and bad. I have to add a recent link of a poem I wrote which ties into how words can affect others: https://baydreamerbubble.com/2017/11/27/delivery/.
    And then of course, actions are a different, more serious situation. Your post brings great awareness to this issue that needs resolving very soon. Sending hugs and love..xo

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  43. JoAnna
    Nov 30, 2017 @ 03:42:05

    I’m sending lots of love and hugs across time to that sweet schoolgirl in the beautiful dress. Thank you for admitting to outbursts. I’ve had a few myself, and likely will again, but we CAN give compliments to build up and reinforce. I’m going to make a conscious effort to do that daily.

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  44. Cosmic Traveller7
    Nov 30, 2017 @ 08:31:30

    You could THANK your bullies for making you the strong beautiful woman you are today.

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  45. Ka Malana - Fiestaestrellas.com
    Nov 30, 2017 @ 21:29:37

    Bullying makes me sad and angry. Too many people have been subjected to such cruel treatment. There’s a lot of shaming in society, too. We NEED to get our power back. I wish I had more words to express but I think this is a wound for me as well. It leads to the feelings of never being good enough. I’ve been brought to the front of the room and humiliated, made an example of, for reasons I still don’t understand and confuse me as I was very young. Thank you, Sue, for bringing the light here. My wish is for your healing and your empowerment for young Sue and for all of Sue. Bless you friend, ❤️ Ka

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    • Sue Dreamwalker
      Dec 03, 2017 @ 11:51:02

      Thank you Ka.. I agree, I held the feeling of Unworthiness, for a long long time, into my adult years, and only by going deeper within to rescue that Little Girl inside, did I finally see the Light she brought me. We often carry our shadows, never really understanding where they sprung from. Reaching back into my Childhood over the years and within my past lives, has helped me better understand the feelngs I carried. And helped me understand the feelings of deep depression in my teen years.
      My healing journey is well underway Ka.. And reading the many comments here, I see how many more still carry those scars of their childhood years.. But each time we reach deeper to help our inner child heal, we peel away yet another layer we have built around ourselves..
      So Thank you Ka for sharing..
      Love and Blessings my friend 😀 ❤

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  46. stephensmustang1
    Dec 01, 2017 @ 02:10:24

    I understand. I wore homemade dresses and hand me downs…kids made fun of me (I don’t remember adults doing that). It’s a sad world we live in when we can’t embrace creativity and handmade items..where we can’t just love and accept.

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    • Sue Dreamwalker
      Dec 03, 2017 @ 11:20:48

      Yes the headmistress was a task master, Many pupils at school towered over her she was only small, but she ruled with an iron fist, and I think she enjoyed her authority over us all.Rules were RULES, and NOT to be broken, but she couldn’t make my mother buy a new uniform for we just didn’t have the means.. I was the eldest of five. She would pick on many others too, But I would come to dread assembly and try to hide at the back often if I could.. 🙂

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  47. kowkla123
    Dec 01, 2017 @ 11:55:15

    wünsche dir ein angenehmes Wochenende ohne Stress und Sorgen, Klaus

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    • Sue Dreamwalker
      Dec 03, 2017 @ 11:03:56

      Was für ein wunderbarer Wunsch Klaus, danke. Und ja, kein Stress oder Sorgen, und ich bin froh, dass ich von meinem Urlaub im Urlaub zurück bin.
      Ich wünsche dir einen wunderschönen Sonntag, 🙂 Sue

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  48. Tina Frisco
    Dec 02, 2017 @ 01:13:40

    Sue, I wonder if all the teasing and bullying we endured didn’t help fashion our compassionate hearts? Like you, I wore hand-me-downs. My last name and birthday (April 1st) were also fodder for bullying. Fortunately, we are strong beings and managed to survive this without closing our hearts. My little girl sends big hugs to your little girl ❤

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    • Sue Dreamwalker
      Dec 03, 2017 @ 10:55:27

      I thank your little Girl Tina.. and I feel many of us have had to reach back inside to pull out that little girl and give them a big hug. I am sure our experiences helped shape who we are today. And no doubt was all part of the Divine plan in our learning experiences of discovering who we are. And helping us be who we are today. Learning to look back in gratitude for those experiences, has come through digging deep into Self. Stepping back and viewing events from outside of a childs perspective, to see beyond that which we carried for such a long time.. Its taken many years, many masks, and many layers of shedding the feelings of Unworthiness, that often would restrict.. Through shedding the layers, I learnt to stand up and be proud of myself, and it taught me no one was better, and no one was beneath me.. For we are all here learning and growing with our own set of circumstances and choices to learn from. So we may both thank our Little Girls, for their strength and the love they kept in their hearts.. They served us well.. 🙂 ❤ ❤ ❤

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  49. The Emu
    Dec 02, 2017 @ 11:23:08

    What a lovely yet sad story Sue, Your gingham dress is something to be proud of, it reflects memories of those times and also your Fathers ability to resole shoes.
    Looking back on teachers in those times actually make us wonder on their compassion and commonsense, to parade two children in a situation like a before and after scenario, would have been degrading. You survived Sue and exceeded expectations I would think. I often reflect on my School years, being withdrawn from school because I was deemed illiterate and would never learn to read or write, apprenticed out to the shoe making trade.
    Never underestimate a child or their potential.
    Cheers.

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    • Sue Dreamwalker
      Dec 03, 2017 @ 10:13:10

      I thank you Ian, and yes you are so right. The headmistress was a spinster, who I think held a bitter streak in her life, now being the adult looking back upon her actions not just to my situation but to many others who came from the not so privileged back grounds. But all set me upon a path that held me in good stead for my own adult years.. 🙂 Many thanks my friend 🙂

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  50. The Emu
    Dec 03, 2017 @ 10:38:28

    Ironic and unfortunate that Children sense and feel injustice at an early age, yet can adapt and learn from it.
    Cheers.

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  51. Lisa Hutchison LMHC
    Dec 03, 2017 @ 14:54:11

    Thanks for sharing your personal experience, Sue. Words can hurt and carry with us long after they are spoken. Bullies come in all forms, children and adults. I am grateful for you coming out on the other side to shine your light!

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  52. shreyasukrity
    Dec 04, 2017 @ 12:45:03

    This post was awesome. Loved it.

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  53. DG MARYOGA
    Dec 04, 2017 @ 23:12:48

    Oh,my sweet Sue,what a nasty experience at early age,but bad experiences like that can make us stronger,they can be effective tools in our hands to help others …
    However,I find the racial bullying the worst of all especially nowadays that so many refugees try to settle in other countries.Sending love & hugs to you dear friend 🙂 xxx

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  54. Bodhirose
    Dec 05, 2017 @ 03:54:19

    Hi Sue, it’s been ages since I’ve visited because I’ve not been blogging much at all and even have resigned as one of the administrators at dVerse Poets Pub recently. My heart just isn’t in it anymore but I hope to somehow resurrect my enthusiasm…someday.

    But I popped over to see what I would find and as always you have eloquently and sensitively shared your wisdom with us. I too am sorry you were treated in such a way at school and I feel that there is no excuse for teachers or administrators to treat their students in such a harsh manner. As far as I’m concerned there should be zero tolerance of bullying…either children against other children or the adults against the children…they should be thrown out immediately.

    We were of limited means when growing up and there were six children so we too wore hand me downs, although I was the first girl in the family so perhaps my clothing was more new than the others. My mother also was a wonderful seamstress and sewed beautiful clothing for me, I especially remember in junior and senior high school. Then I learned to sew my self and was proud of my skills and nice clothing.

    I watched the video that you posted and then went on to watch a couple of other ones that portrayed girls with eating disorders…so very sad. And I think much of it stems from low self esteem and feelings of worthlessness. It’s an epidemic don’t you think?! I’m so hoping that my own two dear granddaughters will grow up with a strong sense of self and know their worthiness their whole lives.

    My heart aches for all children who are treated unkindly. It’s tough enough growing up without added heartache heaped upon them.

    Thanks for a meaningful post, Sue.

    Love,
    Gayle xo

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    • Sue Dreamwalker
      Dec 05, 2017 @ 15:47:43

      Yes I agree with you, about zero tolerance.. And even my own little granddaughter has been bullied in her school when aged 5. So distressing and upsetting for those enduring it.
      Reading all the comments, so many of us grew up in hand me downs and home made clothes, but that was the world.. Make do and mend.. Unlike today, when its the norm to go into debt, rather than do without..
      But the low self esteem and unworthiness imprints, longer than we would like.. Though I have shed much of my layers through self work..

      Lovely to see you too Gayle.. I think there often comes a point where we cut back and take stock..
      I left two poem sites I contributed to, I nearly shut down my Google account recently too, but then thought deeper on it.. So trimmed the sites I followed there..

      I am pleased you are well, I know your poems are wonderful, and I also know when you feel able to share you will do so again..
      But sometimes we have to follow our instincts and honour our selves .. I am learning to do that more, without the guilt I used to feel in neglecting the many I follow..
      I know the true friends I have on WP, will always be around and understand we have lives outside of our computers..

      Sending Huge hugs for you and your family in the festive season Gayle.. Enjoy ALL that you do.. and take care of yourself..
      And thank you so much for popping in.. I loved your visit.. ❤ xxx Hugs Sue ❤

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      • Bodhirose
        Dec 07, 2017 @ 05:23:50

        Sounds like you were being stretched a little thin, Sue, and yes, it’s good to take stock, cut back if need be and put up healthy boundaries so we can live a more balanced life. If things feel too hectic, it’s no longer any fun…or serving us!

        I would feel terrible if I knew my granddaughter was being bullied. She just started pre-school a few months ago and loves it so I wish her the best as she learns to navigate all the personalities out there…teachers and classmates alike.

        I wish you and your family the best and hope you enjoy the upcoming holidays however you may or may not celebrate. It was good to pop in and have a nice exchange with one of my favorite people. Hugs and love to you, Sue. ❤ xo

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  55. Mél@nie
    Dec 06, 2017 @ 22:11:09

    @”We are all responsible for our thoughts, words, deeds and actions…” – yes, indeed… btw:”We have 2 choices: continuously blame the world for our failures and stress – or take responsibility for our reactions and deliberately change our emotional climate.”(“Doc” Lew Childre)
    * * *
    my very best, stay healthy and good luck in all your endeavours! 🙂

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  56. mariewilliams53
    Dec 07, 2017 @ 13:10:12

    So sorry to read about your early childhood and how bullying impacted you Sue. I often wonder why it is that children suffer so when they are least able to deal with it – it makes no sense to me. Then coupled with the bullying you are left with the effects of feeling unworthy which you carry into adulthood – and then there you have to deal with that too because it impacts the way you live your life. Some of us use our suffering as a platform and become compassionate human beings whilst others build on it and continue to abuse others. It’s hard to believe that we are all connected and we originate from a loving place when we see these things played out in life. I’m so looking forward to finding out what it’s all about.:) Anyhow on a more positive note, thank you for sharing your story and I feel blessed to know you. Thankful too, that you became one of the compassionate ones! Hugs xx

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    • Sue Dreamwalker
      Dec 07, 2017 @ 18:18:10

      Thank you Marie. I am often perplexed with that same question often Marie. But when you come to see the larger picture of humanity, we are far from on our own in our childhood traumas. But I do feel that my own past experiences, have shaped who I am today, So I can look back on many things and see them in a different light, and know they helped bring me to that compassionate state of BEing.
      And you too, who have over come so much,are such a beautiful soul, who now spreads her Light and Love..
      Blessings.. and Much Love
      Sue ❤ xxx

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  57. Mahesh Nair
    Dec 07, 2017 @ 18:58:24

    “Where ever I go, what ever I do, I try to become aware of how my words may impact upon another, I am not always successful, I have my outbursts too.. But I try to leave Kindness, Upliftment, and Praise for others…” – precious words of wisdom, Sue. Yes, all it takes is awareness. Since expectation kills the joy of life, believe in “giving.” The school tale is really emotional. Really admire how you look at it and are honest about it. Besides, bullying has always been an issue, more so now with access to technology. Thanks for the post, my friend. (PS. I guess we are commenting on each other’s post now – speaking of coincidence 🙂

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    • Sue Dreamwalker
      Dec 07, 2017 @ 19:02:40

      Haha.. Yes, LOL I often find this happens, and Love it when we find ourselves on each others blogs.. And Thank you for your kind comment.
      I think bullying is more prevalent on cyber space these days.. And so many young children now are feeling these sad effects, which have been leading to suicides .. So we need to spread awareness.. As you have in your recent post.. As flattery crosses the line.. Many thanks Mahesh. 🙂

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  58. Playamart - Zeebra Designs
    Dec 08, 2017 @ 00:53:25

    well it took me long enough, but i wanted to watch the video…. just finished, and of course it almost made me cry, and of course it gave me an empath’s sicky stomach feeling…

    thank you for a beautiful post, for opening your wounds so that you can share your story, and for the link to that video…. you are a very dear and special person and are cherished by many!

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    • Sue Dreamwalker
      Dec 08, 2017 @ 12:32:52

      Lisa, thank you dear friend, It is sad that so many in this day an age still vent so much abuse on others, especially via the social networks that many of the younger generation are now into..
      Its important to see how words wound, and how quickly one is affected by them..
      So I thought to share my own experience of how we can be affected by the names we get called..
      A sad fact today is that many are not coping with it and taking their own lives..
      Thank you Lisa.. for those kind words, and I know the amount of trouble and effort it takes in your part of the world to view a video and get internet access, So A BIG thank you for coming through to comment.. I so appreciate you..
      Many thanks again.. LOVE Sue ❤

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  59. Maniparna Sengupta Majumder
    Dec 11, 2017 @ 00:34:28

    The nature and reason of bullying may vary, but the effect remains the same. I didn’t face problems in the school as it was mandatory to buy the uniforms from a prescribed tailor. But it was in the college that I faced it. Your post has made me remember that incident, Sue. And, it proves that words do leave a scar which is deep enough. I’m thinking of writing a post on it. Can I just make a pingback to this post of yours when I’ll publish?

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  60. laura kilty
    Dec 14, 2017 @ 22:14:28

    I think often of how difficult it must be for young people today- at least when I came home from school, I got respite from the bullies. We need to be educating adults and children alike that kindness and community is the way forward. Thank you for another powerful and important post Sue.xo

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    • Sue Dreamwalker
      Dec 15, 2017 @ 11:17:53

      Yes, I feel children today are under so much more pressure, not only to succeed, but by the fact that most are connected to social media and their self image is so important. So much more so, than in my childhood.. But those who receive a barrage of abuse and bullying via their phones, must feel gutted, especially when so called friends join in. And we should all try to educate our younger generation, it is not cool to bully and just how words wound.. ❤ Many thanks again Laura. xx

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  61. Barbara Franken
    Dec 16, 2017 @ 09:35:37

    And how the teacher treated you has been copied by the children and now bullying is rife everywhere. When ever I meet children I try in some way to leave empowering words for them to know they are just perfect the way they are. I have incorporated it in my creative art project and my children’s book that I can’t wait to publish next year… much love to you sue and Thankyou for sharing your vulnerabilities… it has made you who you are today x barbara x

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    • Sue Dreamwalker
      Dec 16, 2017 @ 10:37:47

      Yes agreed dear Barbara, learning to treat our children with respect and to help them see how our actions, words imprint upon them.. And how in turn theirs affect others..
      Learning to see what we send out forms a ripple effect..
      Your projects and Book I know will bring much joy and enlightenment to many Barbara.. You bring the gift of Love into the world my friend..
      Thank you for reading, and yes, Our past is what has made us into who we are today.. Many thanks again ❤

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