A Mother’s Thoughts.
I am so very lucky.. Having two Wonderful Children.. And had such lovely Gifts today.. The best Gifts being that of my kids..
I try to be a good mum. My two children having left the nest a while ago.. I try not to ruffle their feathers keeping out of their hair, but letting them know I am always here if they should need me.. And I go visit every couple of weeks or so, and know how I’m so lucky that they live close by.
I sent up a Mother’s Day thought today to my own Mother, who passed a few years ago now.. And I think of all the wasted years we had, when she stopped talking to me.. Despite repeated efforts to mend the rift, I gave up in the end.. So sad really as she missed out so much on her grandkids, and I never stopped them either from seeing her, they just made up their own minds to stop going as she posioned their minds against me and their Dad and Granddad.. such was her bitterness..
It struck me.. how many people waste so much precious time wrapped up in bitterness, How when couple’s divorce and parents ask children to take sides, or cloud their minds with bitter vengeful words.
My own children made up their own minds about their Gran and Grandad.. Children are very astute when discerning faults from their parents.. I know, I grew up in very turbulent circumstances of parents who had violent rages of which we as children would get caught up in and told to take sides..Or were told to say this or that and say nothing..or else!
We as Mothers try our best for our children, we can lead them to water, but we can’t make them drink.. And for a time when my own daughter was a teenager, I thought I was repeating the same pattern as my Mother and I had when I was a teenager, arguing. Laying down ground rules.. Nothing seemed to work.. Until one day I said ok ‘I let go’.. and in letting go of the reigns I let my daughter find her own direction.. And if that meant making her own mistakes then so be it.. Luckily she turned a corner, and came back onto the path and I am such a proud Mother today of both my children.
Sometimes learning to love is learning to let go.. It’s a bitter pill to swallow, but one that at times is needed in order for healing to take place.. I have read some recent Blogs of late upon letting go..
I spent so many years feeling Guilt for my Mother, thinking I should have tried harder or changed her. But each of us needed to experience those lessons about Love along our pathway in life.. My Mother could never ‘Give’ of herself, she was a taker, very selfish, and her bitterness was etched in her voice and face of how life had dealt her this bad deal..
When in fact we are the ones that hold the pack of cards, and it’s up to us as individuals as how we play them..
I wish all of you Mum’s out there a Great Mothers Day what’s left of it..
And hope that your cards come up Trumps!… In all you do..