Over the past few weeks I have beat myself up. Told myself off, and tried to justify why I have felt tired, depressed and low on self esteem. I am a person who gives 100% most of the time. And I expect others to also give 100% of themselves. But I forgot one basic thing..
That if we were all be the same it would serve us to learn nothing. For we have to have opposites in all things.. With the Good we must also experience the Bad.
Depending on what stage we are in our lives, we can sometimes feel like we ought to know more about who we are or how to live. We may even beat ourselves up for making the same mistakes, or for just not understanding why we go through the various mistakes we keep making. We wonder how our lives would be now, if only we had “known better.” During moments like these, it is important to remember that none of us are born with instruction manuals and that learning lessons is a lifelong journey. And that each of us only progress by learning through our mistakes!
And until we learn, the lessons keep on repeating.
Our being born is that we are here to observe, learn, and grow. Accompanying this is understanding that there will be mistakes and misadventures along the way. We must also realise that there are those who come to bring to us those irritations in life in order for us to learn and grow. So too our enemies in a way should be thanked, for they come to allow us to grow and progress. And so therefore are there any mistakes in life?
While it is only natural that we may sometimes become overwhelmed, especially when the lessons keep coming, it is important to remember that learning to understand yourself and your world.
Every lesson is intended so you can become more aware of who you are. And as you grow through this self-discovery, you begin to create your own instruction manual. The "how’s" and "why’s" are yours to discover, and part of the beauty of being alive is that these rules are always changing as is the world.
Sometimes Discovery of Oneself comes with harsh lessons. And we become harsh task masters upon ourselves as we beat ourselves up for our mistakes.. But are they mistakes?……
Or are they the thorns that lead us up the beautiful stem of life to that perfectly formed Rose.
Valentines Day is the day many give their loved ones Roses. Next time you look at that Rose, take note of the Thorns. For the thorns of Life are there for a purpose, they allow us a choice to chose the smooth or rugged road..The Choice is always ours to make..
They show us that the purpose of learning compassion means someone has to suffer. It means that to learn to care, someone has to be in need of caring. It tells us that if we chose the path of the light.. there has to be also that Dark path.
So I give you a ROSE……. with all its thorns and lessons…….
Happy Valentines to all my friends
A repost of mine from 2010 Tweaked with …..And still I am learning the lessons!… enabling Change!