
Over the past few weeks I have beat myself up. Told myself off, and tried to justify why I have felt tired, depressed and low on self esteem. I am a person who gives 100% most of the time. And I expect others to also give 100% of themselves. But I forgot one basic thing..
That if we were all be the same it would serve us to learn nothing. For we have to have opposites in all things.. With the Good we must also experience the Bad.
Depending on what stage we are in our lives, we can sometimes feel like we ought to know more about who we are or how to live. We may even beat ourselves up for making the same mistakes, or for just not understanding why we go through the various mistakes we keep making. We wonder how our lives would be now, if only we had “known better.” During moments like these, it is important to remember that none of us are born with instruction manuals and that learning lessons is a lifelong journey. And that each of us only progress by learning through our mistakes!
And until we learn, the lessons keep on repeating.
Our being born is that we are here to observe, learn, and grow. Accompanying this is understanding that there will be mistakes and misadventures along the way. We must also realise that there are those who come to bring to us those irritations in life in order for us to learn and grow. So too our enemies in a way should be thanked, for they come to allow us to grow and progress. And so therefore are there any mistakes in life?
While it is only natural that we may sometimes become overwhelmed, especially when the lessons keep coming, it is important to remember that learning to understand yourself and your world.
Every lesson is intended so you can become more aware of who you are. And as you grow through this self-discovery, you begin to create your own instruction manual. The "how’s" and "why’s" are yours to discover, and part of the beauty of being alive is that these rules are always changing as is the world.
Sometimes Discovery of Oneself comes with harsh lessons. And we become harsh task masters upon ourselves as we beat ourselves up for our mistakes.. But are they mistakes?……
Or are they the thorns that lead us up the beautiful stem of life to that perfectly formed Rose.
Valentines Day is the day many give their loved ones Roses. Next time you look at that Rose, take note of the Thorns. For the thorns of Life are there for a purpose, they allow us a choice to chose the smooth or rugged road..The Choice is always ours to make..
They show us that the purpose of learning compassion means someone has to suffer. It means that to learn to care, someone has to be in need of caring. It tells us that if we chose the path of the light.. there has to be also that Dark path.
So I give you a ROSE……. with all its thorns and lessons…….
Happy Valentines to all my friends
Sue Dreamwalker
A repost of mine from 2010 Tweaked with …..And still I am learning the lessons!… enabling Change!













































Feb 13, 2013 @ 14:39:38
wow, you are a rose, that inspires us with your beautiful words (~_~) bows humble
Feb 13, 2013 @ 16:04:35
Blushing now as Red as that Rose
Many thanks Art
Feb 13, 2013 @ 14:48:13
Thank you for this read, my lovely sis … sending you many good thoughts … and a yellow rose … (I love yellow roses, haven’t found a hardy enough one to survive our AB climate). Always, cat.
Feb 13, 2013 @ 16:07:05
Arrgh my Dad had a wonderful Yellow Climbing rose Tree and I never did find its name, but the perfume was adorable… Thank you as always for your visit… will catch up with you shortly
xx
Feb 13, 2013 @ 14:57:23
Often it is the mistakes and the thorns of life that provide for the best lessons.
Love starts with the self, love the self and invest in self, then the bounty of love is abundant to share with others.
Feb 13, 2013 @ 15:17:44
The only way I can get through trying times DW and all times actually, is to always look for the good buried beneath the bad. It’s there and when we find it is says to us ” See, this is why you went through what you went through now buck up and run with it “, and often times we end up better off than we were before. I also turn every bad streak into a challenge for myself to get through and come out better from it. I love challenging myself because my not wanting to let myself down drives me forward. You are a special and wonderful soul and so concentrate on what is good within you, dwell in that space and forget the rest of the garbage ego is hounding you about
…..Sending love…VK
Feb 13, 2013 @ 16:17:39
Great advice… and each challenge allows us to grow ever stronger..Learn and Grow!…. and prune out that dead wood hey VK… just like we do with our Rose Tree!
xxx
Feb 13, 2013 @ 16:44:00
Absolutely…Prune away DW and let your beautiful blossom self unfold in the magical sunlight
VK
Feb 13, 2013 @ 15:36:59
Thank you for the rose Sue what a lovely gesture x
Feb 13, 2013 @ 16:25:30
Hi Beverley…….. sending you a Hug also to go with it..
Feb 13, 2013 @ 16:31:48
love love love
xxxxxhttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yUZYf4aNDgM LOVE LOVE – LOVE DAY – EVERY SINGLE DAY
XOXOXOOXXOOXOXOXOXOXOXOOXOXOXOXO
Feb 13, 2013 @ 16:32:39
OH it didn’t show “KISS OF LIFE ” SADE
XO http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yUZYf4aNDgM
Feb 13, 2013 @ 16:34:42
Thank you Cat
xxxx Big Hugs xxx
Feb 13, 2013 @ 16:35:58
Feb 13, 2013 @ 17:20:08
This is a powerful piece of writing that offers a sense of knowing and also a bridge that needs to be crossed, once across the bridge is it the left or the right fork in the road that one needs to tread or should chance play a greater role in this way of thinking?
The darkness and the light blend leaving one unsure of the correct path to follow but life is a vast learning curve with many trials and tribulations to consider, there are also many happier moments to enjoy and positive thoughts can add optimism to enhance the road ahead.
Life is multifaceted with many different journeys to travel and the wisdom that is gained through knowledge will guide one through the labyrinth, and where opportunities and chance plays a big part in life perception and good judgement will be there to be fashioned.
The rights and wrongs will also play a hand in one’s journey but then conscience is an enlightening human characteristic, so it will be one’s own choice that moulds the course there onwards.
A fantastic post Sue
Feb 13, 2013 @ 19:48:47
Many thanks for this thoughtful response Poet356, We are all upon a journey of learning my friend.. Many thanks for returning
Feb 13, 2013 @ 23:56:40
I am enjoying your
writing very much Sue
Feb 14, 2013 @ 13:43:25
Thanks again and I appreciate your comments
Feb 13, 2013 @ 17:25:12
Great post Sue!
I use my own version of Ho’onpono these days
I LOVE You
I FORGIVE You
I THANK You for the lesson you gave me
I have been tested on this a lot lately.
Much LOVE to ALL here and
HAPPY VALENTINES to ALL of you wonderful souls!
Feb 13, 2013 @ 19:51:06
Many thanks Debra for your visit, Beautiful sentiments. I wish I could repay the visit, but I am not a member of FB and will not be joining… Thank you for your well wishes and Happy Valentines Day to You!
Feb 13, 2013 @ 19:14:25
Hello lovely lady, beautiful as always. Thank you Sue. Thorns I meet are my opportunities to either prove I can avoid, overcome or learn from. Blessings David
Feb 13, 2013 @ 19:52:21
David thank you, I dare say we all of us have had our share of thorns, I think now is the time to stop and smell the roses!
Feb 13, 2013 @ 19:15:56
Sue, you and I think so much alike. I too believe we are here to learn, grow and experience all we can while we are here. There are no real mistakes in my way of thinking, only learning experiences.
Feb 13, 2013 @ 19:54:00
Exactly
another saying is.. ” Great minds think alike”
Feb 13, 2013 @ 20:34:59
Thanks for this, Sue. I like to think that I’m learning, but every now and then I make the same mistake again and again. One day, I suppose my lesson will be completed in those areas…
Feb 14, 2013 @ 13:29:01
Tom there are no rules to life, but to live it, and so when the time is right I have no doubts your life will be completed in all areas!
Thank you for visiting
Feb 14, 2013 @ 00:00:46
Hallo,dear Sue!
This is for you, for being kind to others and me : )
Pick it up here if you want to http://summer4soul.wordpress.com/2013/02/14/valentines-day-this-is-for-you-because-you-are-love/
Sweet greetings, Summer
Feb 14, 2013 @ 00:12:43
Choices, choices. All about choices. Thanks for the reminder.
Feb 14, 2013 @ 14:35:21
Hi Sharechair, yes seems we are all facing them right now!
Thank you for dropping by to add your thoughts
Feb 14, 2013 @ 03:26:41
I accept your rose and would offer one in return. A favorite flower that tells us so much. We are human and like the delicate rose connected to life that is full of thorns sometimes…difficulties, unhappy moments and questions…always those questions. I am a question asker and use to ponder on why I asked so many and got so little on my return. But, again, we are human and if we did not ask the questions and ponder over the choices how awfully dull life would be. I wish you well, my friend, and good days are right around the corner. Blessings
Feb 14, 2013 @ 15:15:14
Renee, thank you, Yes your words are so true Renee, We wouldn’t be here if we did not need the experience and we would definitely not be here if we were perfect ! .. Wishing you well… and I am fine….
Many thanks my friend
Feb 14, 2013 @ 06:13:30
What a beautiful post…
I felt the pull of your words as I wandered through it today…
I came back several time and now I am not sure if I have words to
convey my thoughts…no I don’t but I think you probably will know them’ anyways…
Once again Sue..Thank you for being you and always know inh what I need to hear
Take Care as You Matter muh within this journey we are on
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just me
Feb 14, 2013 @ 15:49:35
You matter greatly in mine, Ladyblue … Many thanks dear one.
Feb 14, 2013 @ 06:30:31
Hello my dear Dreamwalker,
thank you very much for your nice words.
Your post is lovely!
I wish you a Happy Valentine’s Day!
Much peace and love in your life.
hugs from my heart ~~ Jussara
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Feb 14, 2013 @ 15:50:39
Many thanks Dear Jussara, and thank you for your beautiful gift of the rose
Feb 14, 2013 @ 06:48:40
Ouch!
I prefer to avoid the thorns, but sometimes we have to grasp the rose, thorns and beauty alike.
Love and hugs always!
Prenin.
Feb 14, 2013 @ 15:51:43
I can lend you some gardening gloves Prenin…. LOL.. the Ouches are lessoned
Feb 14, 2013 @ 11:07:08
I think you must have written that great post for Wolfie! Or we have been in a very similar place of late… But I totally agree with whY you said here and the rose is beautiful even with its painful thorns
I hope your today is as beautiful and sunny and the world alight with blue skies as mine is outside
Feb 14, 2013 @ 16:05:15
Hi Wolfie, yes my day has been wonderfully Sunny, literally as I have been outdoors… Hope the Blue skies stay for both of us for a while
xx
Feb 14, 2013 @ 12:33:40
Your words are soothing and comforting, as I begin to emerge from yet another dark passage. The picture that emerged this time is that we all play a part in this drama we call ‘life’ ~ sometimes ‘good’, other times apparently not so, it’s only a matter of perspective. We are all connected and our actions ripple out, affecting the whole and bringing learning for those able to see through the thorns to the beauty of the rose. Thank you for re blogging this archived piece, SD, I missed it the first time round and may not have understood it in the way I do now.
Feb 14, 2013 @ 16:10:06
Awww WR, Im sorry that your dark patch seems to be ongoing at the moment .. Our actions surely do ripple outwards and often we do not see just how far they travel… But I am thankful that your visit allowed you to understand how life actions affect each and everyone… So Im thankful that I re-posted… Many Thanks..
Feb 14, 2013 @ 16:44:07
You are just amazing, Sue!…Happy Valentine’s Day! xoxo ♥
Feb 14, 2013 @ 17:38:24
Thank you so much Deb… Hope you enjoy also..
xox
Feb 15, 2013 @ 10:58:16
Hope you enjoyed your Valentines Day , lovely post Sue. Sheila xx
Feb 15, 2013 @ 13:47:19
Thank you Shelia Yes we did… and likewise with your good self..
xox
Feb 15, 2013 @ 21:12:08
Lessons are always for benefit and never ment as punishment. Some times they may feel to be such but as we learn we grow and as we grow even the thorns of life will not bother us. An excellent post Dreamwalker worth repeating as often as necessary.
many blessing, Eddie
Feb 15, 2013 @ 21:39:43
All emotions do have a purpose and are there for a reason, as you say Sue. Rather than beat ourselves up it is important for us to listen and understand what is going on in our own minds and hearts. Wishing you the beauty of the rose for a while, rather than the thorns. I do love roses
Feb 16, 2013 @ 01:38:37
I hope you had a wonderful Valentine’s Day — ours was very quiet!!
Feb 17, 2013 @ 20:53:35
Thanks Becca, it was quiet also…
Feb 16, 2013 @ 04:19:04
And what a lovely rose you have given. Thank you.
Feb 17, 2013 @ 20:54:55
Thank you Samantha….
Feb 16, 2013 @ 06:23:50
So true
…
Why depressed and low of self esteem??
Feb 17, 2013 @ 21:01:57
This was a period of time a few yrs ago .. When my job was about to end due to local government cutbacks in the caring profession .. I felt that peoples care was being put to one side for profit…. and was hurting inside for those whom I had supported for a period of 7 yrs… whose lives were about to be altered,.